Stop getting triggered by family drama
Find emotional peace through Stoic wisdom
xoxo Lani, relationship resilience coach
free courseReady to stop spiraling and start thriving?
You’re just one step away from mastering your emotions, transforming family dynamics, and turning triggers into growth. Because let’s be honest — you didn’t come this far in your self-help journey to let your siblings win.
Let’s stretch that resilience and build relationships that don’t make you want to scream into a pillow.
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CALM: The 4 Steps to Stop Family from Stealing Your Sanity
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What if You Could…
Shrug off your mom’s guilt trips like they’re no big deal.
Smile through your sister’s unsolicited advice.
Handle your partner's criticism with grace, not defensiveness.
Find humor when your teenager hits peak eye-roll.
Let dad's opinions roll off your back.
Set boundaries with your in-laws — and actually stick to them.
Stand firm with your brother without starting World War III.
You can!! Grab your emotional toolbox—we’re about to upgrade it with some next-level Stoic tools that actually work.
Why You’re Here
You’ve read the books and listened to the personal growth podcasts. You get the basics. But when it comes to your relationships (especially family), you’re stuck in a loop:
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They trigger you.
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You spiral.
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Cue anger, guilt, and that whole “Ugh, why can’t I just let it go?” internal dialogue.
The good news? You don’t have to stay stuck. You’re not broken. You’re just ready for the advanced class — and I’m here to teach it.
Here’s where resilience comes in:
Bouncing Back from Emotional Setbacks
- You’ve been hit with hurt feelings, misunderstandings, conflicts, or even emotional burnout in your relationships.
- You’re ready to stop letting those moments knock you down and instead bounce back faster, with a clear head and balanced mindset.
Bouncing Back from Disappointment or Conflict
- When family relationships get rocky—fights, miscommunication, or even betrayal—it’s easy to feel defeated.
- Emotional resilience helps you process the hard stuff, learn from it, and move forward without staying stuck in the drama.
Bouncing Back from Old Patterns
- You’re tired of avoiding tough conversations, people-pleasing, or getting furious at that certain family member.
- Resilience coaching helps you spot these patterns, ditch them, and build healthier ways of connecting that actually feel good to you.
I’ve been where you are, and I know how to guide you to the other side—where peace and strength live.
Get your free course"The F-word, family, taught me a whole lot about my capacity for resilience. I have a heck of a lot more than I ever imagined possible!"
Lani Yamafuji - mother, daughter, wife, & relationship resilience coach
yoohoo, come meet me!The Podcast
Let's have some fun challenging fixed perspectives and conventional wisdom around family triggers. Ready?!
coming soon!
What We’ll Do Together
You’ve got the self-help library, the affirmations, and maybe even a journal full of “aha moments.” But let’s be real — when it comes to the people you care about most, it feels like you’re still getting stuck. Stuck in overthinking, snapping, people-pleasing, or just plain not living the peace and confidence you know is possible.
That’s where I come in.
As a relationship resilience coach, I help self-aware self-help junkies like you close the gap between knowing better and living better. Together, we’ll take all that knowledge bouncing around in your head and turn it into actionable, life-changing habits that transform your relationships—starting with the one you have with yourself.
You bring the willingness, and I’ll bring the roadmap to a stronger, calmer, and more resilient you.
Get the free courseThe RESILIENT Framework
Reflect: Know Thyself
Empower: Focus on What You Control
Shift: Reframe the Narrative
Integrate: Align with Your Values
Live: Take Action with Courage
Innovate: Change Your Past
Embrace: Accept Life as It Is
Nurture: Be Invulnerable to Offense
Trust: Build Inner Strength
Simple, Stoic, and to the point — your emotional resilience cheat sheet. I'll help you get to your next level of peace.